By Caitlin Kelly
We got married!
Why am I laughing hysterically just before I walk down the aisle? We married on Centre Island in Toronto, with a petting zoo very close to the church. All I could hear (instead of my processional) were cows mooing!
It was, as today has been — a gorgeous, sunny, warm September afternoon.
We chose a tiny wooden church on an island in Toronto, St. Andrew by the Lake. It’s surrounded by public parkland, so I could look out the window and see green grass and hear crickets during our ceremony, attended by 25 of our oldest and dearest friends, who came from as far away as New York, D.C. and British Columbia.
By late afternoon, the wood of the church was sun-warmed, and the place smelled wonderful, bringing back some of my happiest memories of other rustic, wooden places — the stage at summer camp, the costume cupboard, our cabins and the dining hall.
I grew up in Toronto and, even after living near New York City for decades, knew this was where I wanted to marry.
I walked barefoot from the vestry to the front door of the church, my burgundy slingback Manolos dangling from one hand. There, because my left hip hadn’t yet been replaced, the minister, (himself in Birkenstocks and ponytail), and my Dad helped me into my shoes.
My processional was Dona Nobis Pacem (Give Us Peace) and our recessional was Stevie Wonder’s You Are The Sunshine of My Life.
Our photographer? A young woman Jose had taught at the New York Times Student Journalism Institute, a talented young woman, now at the Houston Chronicle, Marie de Jesus.
I had never met her, she’d never been to Toronto and she’d never shot a wedding. No pressure! She did a great job and we were lucky to have her with us.
It’s been five years of marriage today — but we’ve been together since we met in March 2000; Jose’s move-in day to my apartment (no kidding), was 9/11. He moved in a week later.
We met, (how else for two career journo’s?), when I wrote an article for Mademoiselle magazine about online dating, then a new thing (1999) and he answered the ad I had to place as part of my research. (As did 200 others!)
Catch Me If You Can.
We would never have met any other way, but knew many people in common, which eased our first few meetings.
It’s been a wild 16 years: he retired from The New York Times with a Pulitzer Prize after 31 years, and is now full-time freelance.
He’s seen me wheeled into the OR three times, (knee, shoulder, hip), with a right knee replacement now due in the next few years, maybe sooner.
We’ve traveled together to Paris and Normandy; to six cities in Mexico; to his home, Santa Fe, NM; to Ontario and Quebec many times, to D.C., to Texas, to New Orleans and Arizona.
He gave me a tent for my birthday one year.
Today we both worked, of course, even on a glorious Saturday; he at the computer editing images of several tournaments for the United States Golf Association, I sitting in the parking lot for a village tag sale.
We laugh a lot, share a fierce work ethic and hope for continued good health.
Here’s to a few more decades…
25 thoughts on “Five years ago today, in a church on an island…”
Our fifth year anniversary is coming up next May … Cinco de Mayo to be exact!
How perfect is that! 🙂
Bless you. Thanks for sharing this. The world needs positive people like you. Best wishes. Yes, best of the best to you guys.
Here’s to many, many more happy years! ❤️
Thank you! 🙂
I love stories of happy marriages. Happy anniversary!
Very happy to have found a good one this time around. (First one, not so much.)
congrats and here’s to many more! you both look so genuinely happy in the photos and i’m happy for you. you give me hope…
I will say candidly (moi, candid?!) we have worked HARD at it as well. We met in our early 40s, 2 tough old journos, and it took years before we calmed down enough to appreciate one another enough. I think it’s more challenging as we age, as we know what we will tolerate and what we absolutely won’t anymore.
Crossing my fingers for you, always! 🙂
Thanks for sharing…. Here’s to many more years to doing life together…
Congratulations to both of you. I love the story of how you met and your wedding photos are beautiful — so much colour, laughter and joie de vivre! 🙂
Thanks! I joke (seriously) he was lucky to be in the first 50 emails I got — I got 200 replies to that online profile — or I would never have found him, or vice versa.
It was such a great day. I loved every minute of it.
Happy Anniversary, Caitlin. I love your wedding story.
Thanks, Leslie! 🙂
Many happy returns.
Congratulations Caitlin to you and Jose – may you both continue to enjoy eachother and flourish!
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A bit late to the party on this one but couldn’t resist commenting anyway. I love this! The laughter, the personal bits on the wedding (I mean, mooing–who could beat THAT?), the way you met–all of it. I see the joy in your faces and hope for similar some day soon. Love second chances . . .
Thanks! It’s not easy, esp. later in life, but I’m glad this worked out.
Crossing my fingers for you, always. 🙂
I just turned 54, and have a 2-year-old boyfriend. Ok – he isn’t 2 – our relationship is. Gives me hope. Love your story! It is wonderful!
Yay! Good for you…and good luck! 🙂