Are you someone eager to start a fire — to destroy?
Or to comfort?
By Caitlin Kelly
I found this story interesting — a list of 19 things emotionally intelligent people do.
Here are some of the ones that really resonate for me:
2. They pause.
Emotionally intelligent people realize that emotions are fleeting, and that often making impulsive decisions leads to regrets. Therefore, they try to pause and think before speaking or acting—especially when they find themselves in an emotionally charged moment.
In short, their goal is to never make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion.
Boy, does this one ring true!
How many of us can easily destroy a friendship, relationship, marriage or job with something snapped or shouted in anger?
Even if it doesn’t end it, it can cause serious damage.
The key word for me here is temporary — if you’re consistently miserable, time for a change.
7. They’re authentic.
Those with high emotional intelligence realize authenticity doesn’t mean sharing everything about yourself, to everyone, all of the time.
Rather, they endeavor to always say what they mean, mean what they say, and stick to their values and principles above all.
I think about this a lot with my social media presence, here and on Twitter, where I spend (too) much of my time in these lonely, isolated stay-at-home pandemic days.
As I said to a friend, a very senior level journalist, I may be playful and revealing on social media — but never careless. Whatever I decide to reveal publicly, it’s actually who I really am and expressing how I truly feel and I do that know anyone, anywhere can see it — including future clients.
15. They help others.
One of the best ways to inspire someone is to help them.
By extending a supportive hand, emotionally intelligent people help others to become the best version of themselves.
I’m no Pollyanna, but one of the things I do consistently — like every day or at least every week — is try to help others.
Recently, I introduced a writer in Nashville to one in London, to help her work on a high-level, potentially career-making story. A student whose class I addressed a few weeks ago has become a fairly regular email correspondent.
I work as a journalist, a challenging business that demands decent intellectual ability (not nearly as much as you’d hope) and, ideally, real emotional intelligence — as one of the 19 keys is empathy.
We recently caught up with a friend who’s won a lot of journalism awards and really is a fantastic writer and reporter. While writers love to brag about how much they earn or what awards they’ve won — we so rarely talk about how we do our reporting.
How we get total strangers to trust us with their stories.
Only empathy gets us there, she agreed.
I have no kids and my only niece and nephew are twins born in May 2020 to the brother who refuses to have any relationship with me — for 13 years.
He’s 40 and someone who’s spent his lifetime, since winning major awards in his teens, preening in front of everyone that he is super smart.
I find him one of the least emotionally intelligent people I’ve ever met, and not just because he dislikes me.
Because he places all his value on being a tedious “intellectual”, determined to out-argue everyone on every topic.
Intelligence isn’t something you beat people to death with.
5 thoughts on “Why EQ beats IQ”
Great inputs here. Wonder why I am able to see only a few points here.
IQ helps us during our formative days. EQ propels us forward in our career. Upon reaching a certain level of maturity, I would bet on beefing up one’s Spiritual Quotient!
Good to hear from you again!
If you click on the link in the first paragraph (maybe hard to see?) it will take you to the full article.
eq wins in a landslide. hands down.
Right? I bet you really see this in your teaching.
it makes all the difference